Sunday, September 30, 2012

Part 1: Missing

June 3.
A few hours after John left, I has successfully rocked 2 babies to sleep simultaneously for the first (of many) times, and was sitting in the mostly-dark, writing this post, talking about how Amber should be arriving any minute, and was soon interrupted by a knock at my door. Oh, I thought, Amber must be here already! But when I opened the door, it was not Amber.  It was was Ashley and Bibi, (an LBB family staying down a few rooms). David had called them (I didn't have a phone at that point), and asked if I had confirmed that Amber made her Brussels flight, because he was at the airport and couldn't find her. 
My heart sank.

Of course, I have no way of contacting her once she left the US, so I had not communicated with her since she left Chicago, and she did have a rather short layover in Brussels, but she was supposed to have departed Brussels approximately 11 hours ago, so I was sure if she's missed her connection she would have found a way to contact someone by now. There was a stop in Luanda on the Brussels to Kinshasa flight that night, and I was really hoping she hadn't gotten off there by mistake. That would have been silly, but if you're tired and jetlagged, who knows? I'm sure it's happened. I have no idea how she would have gotten back from Luanda, but there have to be flights  again at some point, right? Her luggage was missing too, so maybe her flight from Chicago was delayed and she had missed the connection? But then why hadn't she contacted someone? 

David said he'd go talk to the people at the airline and see what he could find out. 

I skyped Brandon (my brother, who was staying with my parents at the time) and asked if they had heard anything from Amber.  They had not.  I explained what was going on and asked how we would go about getting a hold of her, and he replied "I do not know.  I do not have a protocol for this."  Unfortunately, neither did I.  So we hung up and I waited to hear back from David, hoping he would get some information, or better yet, find Amber at the airport.

After what seemed like forever of not hearing back, I texted him to ask what was going on.  He called me back and said that what he'd been told was basically that if she wasn't here, then she wasn't on the plane, and the next flight in from Brussels arrived on Tuesday (note that this was Sunday night!), so try back then. 
Helpful.  Thanks for that. 

I skyped Brandon again, this time instructing him to call Brussels airlines to confirm that she'd checked into that flight, and made it on board. "Don't tell Mom."  I suggested, to which he replied, “That's a good idea. This would be a Level 4 Freak-out!”  I was previously unaware that we actually had a rating system in place for Maternal Freak Outs, especially my mom isn't one to really lose her head, but it seemed fitting that this situation would qualify as a high-level panic.  After all, Amber could be on one of three continents at this point, it was getting to be rather late in the night, and I also was kind of wondering how well I'd manage alone with the kids until she could be located and delivered to me, or if I would be goin' it alone from here.  I was not left to wonder much longer. It was while I was talking to Brandon (or maybe right after?)  that there was another knock on my door.

It was Amber.

I was very relieved.  And very confused.  "How did you get here?"  I asked.  But from the look on her face, I could tell this was NOT going to be a good story.

Stay Tuned for Part 2.

Thursday, September 27, 2012

The Timeline

I am going to start a short series of what John calls my "Tell All" posts.

In short, it took a series of miracles to get us out of the Congo in one piece, and now that I've had time to recover from my Adoption PTSD, I am ready to tell.  But first, let's revisit the whole process and what it looked like in numbers.

This was the journey of our second adoption:


3/25/10 Application to Holt
4/15/10 (ish) Application to ANDI (home study agency)
(lots of terrible communication and misunderstanding)
8/1/10 Home study Visit
8/1-3/2010 Parent Education
9/16/10 Completed Home Study Received
9/17/10 USCIS I600A Sent
10/1/10 Fingerprinting Appt Received 
10/25/10 Fingerprinting Appt.  
11/19/2010 USCIS Approval Received
11/19/2010 Dossier Papers Complete
11/29/2010 Dossier Approved by Holt (after one minor revision)-- On the Wait List! #60(ish)
(12/6/2010 Wait List #56)
12/28/2010 Dossier to Ethiopia
(2/1/2011 Wait List approx #43)
(2/14/2011 Wait List approx #34)
(2/25/2011 Wait List approx #28)
(3/5/2011 Wait List approx #24)
(3/18/11 Wait List approx #21)
(5/25/11 Wait List approx #19)
(6/14/11 Wait List approx #17 or 18)
(8/1/11 Still approx #17 or 18)
Increased Age range to 0-4y (got home study update done, but never sent in papers)
9/28/11 Saw Pierre's picture on a waiting list and emailed about him, thinking he was in Ethiopia.
9/29/11 Found out he was not matched yet, but was in the DRC, not Ethiopia
10/4/11 Decide to switch to the DRC and accept Eli Pierre's Referral!
11/19/11 Home Study and Dossier redone and mailed to A Love Beyond Borders
(Translating, Authenticating at DRC Embassy in Washington DC, etc)
12/27/11 Receive Raya Francisc's referral!
1/9/12 Submitted to Court (Papers Received by attorney in DRC)
1/31/12 Passed Court
2/5/12 Learned we Passed Court
2/29/12 30 Day Wait Ended
3/5/12 Certificates of Non-Appeal Issued
3/12/12 (ish) LBB Applied for kids' Passports
3/20/12 Passports Received
4/27/12 Had to Cancel tickets departing 4/30 due to an error in our documents, and the judge just left town for 2 weeks so they won't be fixed any time soon.
2.5 weeks later (when the judge returned) Found out there was actually no error in our documents in the first place
5/26/12-5/27/12 Travel to Congo
5/28/12 Meet Babies!
5/29/12 Visa Appt and Medical Appt
6/26/12 Visas and Immigration Packets Ready
6/28/12 Exit Permits Ready
6/29/12 Head out of DRC
6/30/12 HOME!

Tuesday, September 25, 2012

Trouble

What he lacks in height he makes up for in ingenuity.
(Yes, he is standing on a strainer bowl.  From where he helped himself to a nice juicy nectarine, and then a knife, and then proceeded to start cutting the aforementioned nectarine with said knife... on my carpet.)

Watch Out World.  
There's no stopping this guy.

Friday, September 21, 2012

In Which We Attend a Very Progressive Preschool, and Other Stories

where the curriculum apparently includes* the tunes of the ever-interesting Lady G@ga.


Watch out for the Woe da Mance.  

No, Seriously.  Watch out for it.

*actually, he probably learned it from the other kids.  I sincerely doubt they are doing a study of anything that would include listening to this genre of music.



In other Isaac news, Once Upon a Time, the other day Isaac and Eli were being suspiciously quiet in the kitchen.  Which is never good.  I asked what they were up to, and he said "Nothing."  Which is also never good.  I ask again what they are doing, and Isaac volunteers, "Eli is drinking 'poise.'"
 "Poise?  What is poise?" 
" It will make you sick," he says.  
"You mean Poison?!"  I ask, wondering what sort of poison he might have found in the kitchen cupboards.  

And just then they come meandering in, carrying a bottle of vinegar.  And being the supportive big brother he is, he offers Eli another swig.  "You want some more poison, Eli?

Tuesday, September 18, 2012

Better. And Worse.

This girl is all better.  
She pulls herself up on everything and is starting to take a couple steps while holding on.  
Inspired by her big brothers, I think she really wants to walk!



This boy is not so lucky.  He's succumbed to the fevery illness brought into the house by Raya.  


And now John has it too.  He has been very busy at work, and was determined to go anyway, despite his 103 temp and feeling generally miserable.  He made it approximately 30 minutes before he came back home.

This boy, so far, has been fever-free.  Hopefully that trend continues for him.  And me!

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

Big (and Sick)

We were at the doctor again today, unfortunately it was because Raya is sick.  :(


She has been feverish for a few days now, and it seemed to only be getting worse.
Apparently, she has an ear infection in both ears, and has now started meds.  
We're hoping and  praying for drastic improvement by tomorrow!

But the good news is that my babes are growing!  

Raya has gained 2 pounds and 2 oz, and grown 3.25 inches in 2 months!
This means, she went from the 10th percentile for weight to the 25th percentile,
 and for height, from the less than 5th percentile to the 25th!

Eli has also gained 1 pound (still less than 5th percentile) 
and grown 1.5 inches (which takes him from less than 5th percentile to the 10th!)

Maybe they won't be midgets after all!  
Ok, well, Eli at least probably still will.  ha.

Sunday, September 9, 2012

Just A Picture

I took this picture a while ago, but then never got around to uploading it.  I've been really slacking at that lately.  Anyway.  Here is a picture of The Trifecta, in their matchy-match Africa shirts, courtesy of  Ty's Mom.  (Thanks!)